Notes of Faith August 6, 2022

How to Stay in Love with God

A few years ago, we sat with a younger couple over dessert — listening to their lives, learning them.

Fifteen years and six kids separated us (they had none). Our bedside book stack held books about raising teens and finding God in pain. We were tired from early morning baby cries and late-night conversations with big kids. Our friends were fiery-eyed with vision for our community, overflowing with dreams for their future.

They had ideas and passion, and I had to look at my planner to remember what the next day held.

But one question they asked brought everything together:

Why is it that so many couples we see decades ahead of us have become complacent in their faith? It feels like they grew stale.

What they saw ahead, we saw in our peers. We’d been asking the same question to ourselves. Friends with a once-unwavering passion for God were now tired. Bibles collected dust. Church was a social event, the preaching an opportunity for theological scrutiny and one-upmanship.

But we didn’t look at these friends as “those people over there.” We felt the sobriety of this potential in our own lives.

In our honest admission… it felt more natural to task than to pray. To worship.

With six kids and a big broad vision for family, we could slide into the idealism of principals and lose the fire of love for God.

Though I’m not tech-savvy, scrolling is natural. Accessible. Picking up my phone was easier than digging for what drove me to escape (God).

Twenty years of adulting included so many stories of disappointment. And this disappointment — unexamined and buried — so often leads to distance from God.

As our young friends’ question knocked around in my mind (for years since), I’ve learned something:

Life is made up of middle minutes.

Mowing the lawn.

Folding laundry.

Changing the sheets and renewing our drivers’ license.

Sorting through produce at the grocery store.

Yet when we said “yes” to Jesus, so many of us had our eyes on the great exploits of Daniel 11:32. We thought “yes” to Jesus meant a wildly-alive life in God… until real life happens. Cleaning bathrooms and filing taxes and navigating conflict with our spouse or our parents. We close our Bible after morning quiet time and replace a flat tire an hour later. Missions trips have 350+ days between them. (And even foreign missionaries will tell you that their everyday includes just as much, if not more, mundanity as it does “sharing the Gospel”.)

This is where adoration brings life

Perhaps 20 percent (or much less) of our life includes outwardly obvious exploits for God, but there are thousands of these minutes in between.

And they are minutes during which we receive the same invitation from God:

Will you meet with Me, right here?

Could it be that in our 20’s and 30’s and 40’s, and on… our lives in God get formed over these minutes?

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16, Paul exhorts us to “pray without ceasing.” Our grandmothers crochet this and hang it on walls. We moderns may have it hand-lettered and hung in our office.

But the act of praying… all the time… requires us first to want to talk to God.

This is where adoration brings life.

Adoration is the nexus of the grit of my life and God’s Word and His whisper. Adoration is where I come to Him, from within a minute in my life that stretches me or causes me anxiety or makes me want to escape to my phone, and I bring Him those emotions, and I let His Word intersect with my own heart and mind.

It looked like this for me, this week:

A child writhed, struggling with the natural teenage tension — wanting freedom yet still hungry for dependence. In their wrestle, they lashed out at me. My heart hurt for this child. My heart hurt for me.

I became like a teenager in my insides: wanting to be heard, desperate to be seen, alongside a mix of anger and sadness. I rehearsed the conversation in my mind, reaching for how to say what I felt better… how to make my point heard louder. My inner dialogue, coupled with fears I let in about my relationship with this child and even their future, sent my mind roiling.

Until.

I stepped away to a quiet room in my house.

I brought my ache to God. (This is key. The Psalmists gave us a grid for how they brought their real emotion to God, as they adored.) I told Him how I felt. It took minutes to unravel the initial, more obvious thoughts and, then, discover what lay underneath them. It wasn’t just this moment that had made me ache. Fear draped like a wet blanket over any clear thinking I might have.

I told God how I felt. I invited Him into my internal dialogue.

I opened the Word. After disrobing my heart before God, I realized my driver: fear. I had fears about this child’s future, our relationship, my motherhood, and on and on. These helped me know where to start in His Word. I needed to find God as the one who fielded my fear. I remembered Psalm 18.

David calls God in Psalm 18, “my rock,” “my deliverer,” and “my fortress.”

This was enough for me. If I was honest, I didn’t believe God was steady enough for this circumstance, wasn’t sure He could deliver either my child or me from our failure — and certainly didn’t find Him safe from my inner accusations or my child’s unfettered thoughts about me, in their pain.

So, I adored from this place.

This was my prayer:

God, I feel helpless. I feel like I’m failing, and I’m afraid of the future for this child and our relationship. This conversation has me spinning in fear.

Your Word tells me You are my rock. I have a hard time believing this, but Your Word says it’s true; thus, I adore. God, I adore You as my rock. You steady me because You are steady. You don’t move.

Your Word says You are my deliverer and my fortress. I feel unnoticed, even by You. I wonder if You could or even would deliver me. Deep down inside, I wonder if You would care enough to be my fortress. But Your Word tells me otherwise. God, I adore You as the one who cares enough to deliver me. You want to deliver me from this very moment. You want to lift me above it, while giving me the safety of knowing what to do in it. You shield us – both my child and me – in Your safe fortress.

There were more words than this, but you get the gist.

For adoration to impact the recesses of my heart, I have to bring those recesses to God. And in order for my thinking to shift, I have to acknowledge the dissonance between what my fear tells me and what His Word actually says.

And as I pray, unfurled before Him and vulnerable enough to receive what He might say in His Word… my heart shifts.

This is adoration.

It’s changing me, minute-by-minute.

And so I might say to this young couple today, as they look ahead, desirous to stay wildly alive in God as they grow in age: give Him your middle minutes. The ones that seem insignificant and the ones you rush past.

We learn to fall in love with God over a lifetime, one minute at a time.

Written for Devotionals Daily by Sara Hagerty, author of Adore.

Mark 12:29-31

THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE; AND YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH.' "The second is this, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.' There is no other commandment greater than these."

This is the beginning of eternal life. Love God, love others, and everything else will fall in place.

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith August 5, 2022

All Things

If Job could have known as he sat there in the ashes, bruising his heart on this problem of providence - that in the trouble that had come upon him he was doing what one man may do to work out the problem for the world, he might again have taken courage. No man lives to himself. Job’s life is but your life and mine written in larger text...So, then, though we may not know what trials wait on any of us, we can believe that, as the days in which Job wrestled with his dark maladies are the only days that make him worth remembrance, and but for which his name had never been written in the Book of Life, so the days through which we struggle, finding no way, but never losing the light, will be the most significant we are called to live. -Robert Collyer (Streams in the Desert)

What if in the midst of Job’s trials he could have read, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose?” (Romans 8:28)

Would those words have brought him comfort, hope, and perhaps even joy, or would they have seemed a small, almost offensive quote that failed to assess the scope of his circumstances?

Remember, the book of Job is the oldest book in the Bible so he would not have had the context of understanding the history of God’s interaction with His people. The Bible stories of our youth would not have been in the library of his memory. David and Goliath, Daniel and the lion’s den, the nativity story, Calvary, Paul’s epistles, are all yet stories to be told and lessons to be taught long after Job’s death.

You may think this a strange question to ask but let me ask you an even stranger one: Why would we, with the account of God’s Word, the history of our own experience with God, the gift of His Son, and the revelation of His Holy Spirit ever doubt for a second the absolute integrity and unalterable truth of that verse found in Romans?

Job, this righteous man surely did wonder at his circumstances yet proclaimed, “I know my Redeemer lives” and “Though You slay me, yet will I trust You!”

Job had so much faith based on so little information! Often we have so little faith based on so much information! Can any of us testify that God ever failed us? Has God ever fallen short or not come through for the best interests of the kingdom in any situation throughout history or in our lives now?

He is always faithful! He simply cannot be unfaithful.

So we can be absolutely sure in the midst of whatever our present circumstances may be, that all things are working together for good. The only thing we have to be sure of is that we are “those who love Him” and we are “called according to His purpose.”

This is really a simple thing to determine. You either love Him or you don’t. “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Proclaim your love for Him today in both the words you say and the life you live. If you truly love Him, the “called” part is automatic, because every disciple is called to His purposes.

It always comes back to love, have you noticed that? In Job’s life as in ours, the enemy of our soul seeks to discourage and damage our love relationship with Jesus. It is in that arena that the battles are always won or lost.

The story of Job’s life serves as a great testimony to God’s faithfulness and an encouragement to every believer going through a struggle. In the same way, our life’s story should serve as a similar testimony and encouragement to others watching now and hearing later.

In the final analysis, we will remember more the treasures given in darkness than the blessings received in the light. We will be remembered more for how we dealt with adversity than how we dealt with blessing.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart.” And then you will possess the assurance that in any and every situation all things are working together for good. All things!

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Perhaps some of you felt this letter sounded somewhat familiar. In fact, this edition of the Praiseletter is a reissue of a letter I sent out over a decade ago.

Some of you are aware that I recently had surgery for prostate cancer. The surgery went well, my recovery went and continues to go well also. However, it was time to write the Praiseletter right in the middle of all this surgery stuff and honestly, I just wasn’t up for it. My daughter suggested I go back and find a letter from the past that may be just the right message for the present. Hence...All Things.

This letter ministered to me as though it had been sent from a friend to encourage me in my present circumstance. I pray you find similar encouragement.

Please continue to keep both Linda and me in your prayers as we continue on the “upward way.”

We trust Him completely and find peace and rest in His continual faithfulness and sufficient grace.

In Christ,

Dallas Holm

I receive Dallas Holm’s newsletters through email and have requested permission to forward them to my faithful followers of Jesus. His writings, his music over the years, have blessed me immensely and I love sharing all of it with you. May God give you mercy, grace and hope for the day and joyous expectation for tomorrow.

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith August 4, 2022

Closer Than You Think

Jesus spoke to them, saying, “Be of good cheer! It is I; do not be afraid.” — Matthew 14:27 NKJV

When the disciples saw Jesus in the middle of their stormy night, they called him a ghost. A phantom. To them, the glow was anything but God.

When we see gentle lights on the horizon, we often have the same reaction. We dismiss occasional kindness as apparitions, accidents, or anomalies. Anything but God.

And because we look for the bonfire, we miss the candle. Because we listen for the shout, we miss the whisper.

But it is in burnished candles that God comes, and through whispered promises he speaks: “When you doubt, look around; I am closer than you think.”

~In the Eye of the Storm

God honors radical, risk-taking faith

God's Help is Near

The Lord is close to everyone who prays to Him, to all who truly pray to Him. — Psalm 145:18

Healing begins when we do something. Healing begins when we reach out. Healing starts when we take a step.

God’s help is near and always available, but it is only given to those who seek it. Nothing results from apathy.

God honors radical, risk-taking faith.

When arks are built, lives are saved. When soldiers march, Jerichos tumble. When staffs are raised, seas still open. When a lunch is shared, thousands are fed. And when a garment is touched — whether by the hand of an anemic woman in Galilee or by the prayers of a beggar in Bangladesh — Jesus stops. He stops and responds.

~He Still Moves Stones

Depend on the Lord; trust Him, and He will take care of you. — Psalm 37:5

Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him! Oh, fear the Lord, you His saints! There is no want to those who fear Him. —

Psalm 34:8 NKJV

Merciful father, I see that You are good. I fear you and am humbled when I look toward Your face. You bless me when I don’t deserve it.

Lord, I often feel far from You. Bring me close and remind me what it’s like to be in close relationship with You.

Would You be with all those who are lonely right now? Surround them with a loving community and fulfill all their needs.

Thank You that I don’t need anything when I am in You.

In the name of Jesus, amen.

~ In the Eye of the Storm

Excerpted from Grace for the Moment Notetaking by Max Lucado, copyright Max Lucado.

All we really need in life is the presence of God…He is with you all the time and everywhere you go. Be blessed in His presence!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith August 3, 2022

Tim Moore: If you missed our most recent episode of Christ in Prophecy, then you really missed out on a great blessing. Joining us on our program was special guest Joni Eareckson Tada!

Joni’s testimony will give you hope. Her life changed in an instant when she dove into the Chesapeake Bay and broke her neck. At the tender age of 17, she became a quadriplegic. Refusing to wallow in despair, she overcame unexpected adversity to serve as an example of how to live by faith through extreme suffering. To cite Jeremiah 29:11, “God had a plan for her, to give her a future and a hope.”

Nathan Jones: Joni guided us through the writings of Jeremiah, the so-called “Prophet of Doom,” particularly Jeremiah’s second book — Lamentations. In our “Jesus in the Old Testament” series, we’ve left the period of the kings of Israel and Judah, from roughly 1000 to 600 BC. The era was a sad commentary on the decline of a nation that initially had pledged itself in a covenant relationship to Almighty God.

Tim Moore: Jeremiah’s book of laments captures his heartbreak at witnessing the ravishing of Jerusalem and the people who refused to repent of their faithlessness and wickedness. Written shortly after the fall of the city in 586 BC, it is the saddest book in the Bible. It contains horrors almost too graphic to read. But, even as he expresses the bitterness crushing his heart in Lamentations, Jeremiah clings to the mercy of God, expressing hope in the midst of despair.

Joni’s Amazing Testimony

Tim Moore: Joni, you were confronted with a calamity. At some point or another, all of us will experience at least a minor calamity in our life, and it is only human nature to dwell on our pain and loss. Without dredging up too many painful memories, please share how the accident affected you initially, both spiritually and psychologically.

Joni Eareckson Tada: As you can imagine, I was utterly devasted. I am seventeen years old, athletic, on the go, and ready to head to college. I had asked the Lord Jesus right before I was to go to college orientation if He would please do something in my life that would bring me closer to Him. I knew that college would have its temptations, and so, I wanted a closer walk with Jesus.

Now, I had prayed that prayer right before high school graduation. And, not but two weeks after my graduation from high school, I took a reckless dive thoughtlessly into shallow water. My head hit the bottom of a sandbar. The impact crunched my neck back, smashing my vertebra, and severing my spinal cord.

I cannot begin to tell you the despair I felt, especially having just asked God to give me a closer walk with Jesus. I remember laying in the hospital bed thinking, “Lord Jesus, if this is your idea of an answer to prayer to draw me closer to you, then I’m never going to trust you with another one of my prayers again.” I was devastated, and so I plummeted into depression.

But, thank the Lord, there were Christian friends who were praying. Real quickly friends, when people ask me: “Joni, what should I say, or what should I do, for this person who just suffered a catastrophic injury or illness?” My first response is “Pray!” because we wrestle not against the flesh and blood of spinal cord injury or other disabilities, no, we wrestle against powers and principalities that would love nothing more than to keep us steeped in depression. So, I thank God for Christian friends who were praying for me back then.

Nathan Jones: Praise the Lord! Most people might not know, at least in the younger generation, that there was a whole movie made called Joni dedicated to telling your life and experience, should they wish to know more about your testimony.

Obviously, when you don’t have access to your body anymore, that’s a very despairing situation. Was there a particular Bible verse that helped you keep going and help you become an overcomer? Because, Joni, you clearly are an overcomer.

Joni Eareckson Tada: During my depression, there was one Christian friend who pulled up a chair by my hospital bedside and he said: “Joni, I know you want to get out of your despair. Let me give you a Bible verse that can be your anchor. Start here.” And then he quoted to me 1 Thessalonians 5:18, “In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”

I remember saying to my friend, “What?! No way! I’m not going to do that. I don’t feel thankful. I’d be a hypocrite if I did that.” And he wisely said, “Joni, let’s read the verse today. It doesn’t say ‘in everything feel thankful,’ rather it says ‘in everything give thanks.'”

There’s a really big difference between trusting God and having trustful feelings. So, you’ve got to push your emotions aside. Push away that box of Kleenex. Just take a deep breath, a step of faith, and start giving thanks.

And so, I did just that. I started mouthing thankfulness. I really wasn’t thankful, but I wanted to be obedient. And so, I started thanking God that my hospital bed was at least near the window. I thanked God that my family was supportive. I thanked God that people were coming to visit me. I thanked God that after so many months I was finally able to sit up in a wheelchair. I thanked God for the breakfast that the nurses would first serve on my side of the hospital hallway because that meant it would be warm. For all kinds of things, I started giving thanks to God.

Those small, drastic obediences of giving thanks really exercised my muscle of faith. Over time I began to feel thankful. I believe it was God’s reward for my faithfulness in relying on His Word. He gave me the emotion of thankfulness. So, I would point to 1 Thessalonians 5:18 as the verse that really kick-started me on the path of righteousness and back to God.

Tim Moore: Joni, so many people will look upon your physical limitations, as they are obvious and apparent, but they will also see that you have become an overcomer. Many people in our society today carry deep emotional and spiritual scars. How can we be sensitive to the hurt and suffering happening to lives all around us and still point people to the kind of faith that you exhibit?

Joni Eareckson Tada: As I said at the onset, pray for these people. Don’t pray sporadically, rather pray committedly, diligently, and specifically. Come alongside them. I had friends who were faithful in visiting me on a regular basis. They not only brought their Bibles, but they also brought their guitars, and they brought pizza. When I got a weekend pass, they took me to a local mall. They did things with me. They just embodied the gospel of Jesus. They didn’t just preach at me — they loved me. And of course, love is a verb; it does things. Their expressions of love got me back into the mainstream of life.

I also think it is important to be realistic. This July made it 55 years that I’ve been in a wheelchair. I also live daily with chronic pain. I don’t sleep very well because I am often awakened by the pain. There are mornings, actually on most mornings, I wake up and before my eyes are even opened I’m crying out: “Oh, God, I cannot do this one more day. I’m so tired of this pain. I don’t have the endurance. I can’t do quadriplegia anymore!” But, then I add: “Jesus, I can do all things through you who strengthens me. Lord Jesus, I am empty. I am cavernous. I need your filling. I can’t do one more hour without You. God help me!”

And, do you know what? It is in this way that God loves to pour out His grace on people. He resists the proud. He resists those who hit the alarm, jump out of bed, throw back the covers, take a shower, scarf down breakfast, and race out the front door on automatic cruise control without hardly ever giving God the tip of the hat of a quiet time. He resists those people. But, He gives grace to the humble. The humble are simply people who wake up in the morning realizing their desperate need for Jesus. It’s how I’ve lived these past 55 years in a wheelchair, which makes my smile pretty authentic, and not made of Colgate, for sure.

Nathan Jones: Joni, let me tell you how much of an inspiration you’ve been to me. My father used to take me to book trade shows in Nashville, and I remember looking up at you and watching you paint. I can’t even draw a stick figure, and here you are painting with your mouth! This shows how young I was because I was looking up at you sitting in a wheelchair. And then, years later, when my youngest son was diagnosed with autism, I ran into you at a convention. You stopped everything and gave me some information about your ministry, Joni & Friends. My wife and I have been supporters of your ministry for 15 or so years now. So, I just want to tell you being an overcomer has been an inspiration to so many people, especially to my wife and me.

Joni Eareckson Tada: Oh, Nathan, thank you! I’m still drawing with my mouth. I recently drew a picture when my occupational therapist encouraged me in occupational therapy to draw something that expressed my feelings. And so, I drew my face in anguish. It is a face of, “Oh, God, I’ve got to do this. This is the way I’m to live my life?” Not only is it my portrait, but it is also everybody’s portrait. At times we all say: “God I can’t do this. This is my life? How am I going to manage?”

And so, that particular charcoal drawing pretty much expresses where I was at the time of my injury. And, oh, the difference the Lord Jesus has made! And it is why that particular charcoal drawing is one of my favorites, for it reminds me of where I have come from and the power of the grace of God to change things.

Tim Moore: You reminded me of what happened when Jesus spoke at the synagogue in Nazareth. He proclaimed a Messianic passage that was fulfilled in the hearing of the people sitting there that day. But, the rest of Isaiah’s prophecy, He did not read, for it pointed to a time when the Messiah would indeed fulfill the rest of the scripture which foretells that the Messiah would bestow “a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” That is so evident in your life.

And yet, as we look into the book of Lamentations — a book of lament and despair — the prophet also has a moment when he glimpses the hope that exists even in the midst of despair. In times of trial and despair, what can Jeremiah the prophet teach from the book of Lamentations to those of us living today?

Joni Eareckson Tada: We all know that verse from Jeremiah 29:11. Some probably have it embroidered or placed on a plaque on our walls. “For the Lord knows the plans He has for us, to give us hope and a future.” And yet, Jeremiah wrote that as the people of God were being dragged off into slavery to spend the next 70 years in abject subjection to rulers and domineering tyrants. It was not an easy time for them.

I love Lamentations 3:21-26 because it is so hopeful. Jeremiah says, “But this I call to mind,” okay, whenever you’re suffering, whenever you are hurting, Lamentations 3:21, “…this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The Lord’s great love will keep me from being consumed, for His compassions never fail, they are new every morning.” Okay, right there — great is God’s faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion, I will wait for Him.” This calls to mind the goodness of the Lord Jesus and that He is especially good to those who hope in Him, to the one who seeks Him every single morning.

Nathan Jones: Jeremiah had just witnessed Judah being destroyed by the Babylonians and his people taken away into exile, so he is naturally lamenting. Exile is God’s tough love for hundreds and hundreds of years of Israel rebelling against Him and breaking their covenant. God shows them tough love. But, in the midst of their suffering, Jeremiah offers hope that the Lord is also giving. It’s rather a dichotomy, isn’t it? We’ve got tough love, but we also have God showing tough hope. How can we all gain that tough hope?

Joni Eareckson Tada: I love the way you put that, Nathan — tough hope. Hope is best described in Lamentations 3:32-33. These verses are anchors in my life, okay. These two verses have changed my life. Jeremiah says, “Though He,” that is God, “…brings grief, He will show compassion, so great is His unfailing love.” Now, get this, “…for He does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.”

So, right there in that one little Bible verse, Lamentations 3:33 really reflects the heart of God. Though He allows grief and affliction to touch us, He doesn’t do it willingly, that is, He doesn’t do it from His heart. He did not want my diving accident to occur in the sense that He enjoyed it, or got a big kick out of it, or “Oh, let’s break this girl’s neck and now let’s see what I can do with that.” No. No. No! Suffering and affliction, when it comes to us by His overarching will and foreordained plan, is something that God takes no delight in.

That one little Bible verse — Lamentations 3:33 — reflects the heart of God like nowhere else in the Bible. Think of it, the book of Lamentations is divided into five chapters, and the first two chapters are each comprised of 22 verses. The last two chapters also have 22 verses in them. However, the middle of the book is chapter three, and it comprises 66 verses. Now, here is the intriguing part, the exact middle of that chapter is verse 33 which reads, “He does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.” Wow! That Bible verse falls in the exact middle of the entire book of Lamentations. It is right at the apex of the entire book.

I think there’s a good reason why, because when it comes to suffering, whether it was the suffering that the prophet Jeremiah was speaking of to God’s people, or the suffering that God might allow in our lives, God wants us to know that He has the heart of a Father. We may not understand His ways, but He definitely wants you to understand that He has the heart of a kind and compassionate “Abba, Father, Daddy.”

It doesn’t make God happy to see us hit with hardship. But, oh, my goodness, it does make God happy when He sees all of the things He can do in your life due to it, and how He will encourage others through it, if you would but trust in Him and believe that His mercies are new every morning. Great is His faithfulness!

I would like to meet this special lady if God allows here on earth. What a testimony! Making comparisons is usually not a very good way to understand our lives but as I look at my own life and struggles and compare them with Joni’s and other dear friends that have suffered greatly, I am overwhelmingly blessed! And so are they! God is good all the time and does have eternal perfection waiting for those who have prayed and longed for relief from suffering in this life. We will be there soon, praising, worshipping, giving thanks for His faithfulness.

I know I will see you soon Joni. Praise the Lord!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith August 2, 2022

Am I a Kingdom-Minded Leader?

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal. ~ Albert Pike

A while back, I bumped into an older lady who recognized me as the pastor of Life.Church. She explained that she was a member of another church in town. Although I didn’t know her pastor well, I said that I’d heard a lot of great things about him. She responded, “Wow! I can’t believe you’re speaking well of the competition.” Shocked, I explained that in no way did I view her church as a competitor. She shot back, “Well, your church is definitely our competition. We’re fighting to make sure we get as many members as we can before you and other churches get them all.”

God’s heart must break over that kind of attitude. Jesus said in Luke 11:17,

Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.

Seventeenth-century Puritan minister Richard Baxter echoed Jesus’ sentiment when he lamented, “Is it not enough that all the world is against us, but we must also be against one another? O happy days of persecution, which drove us together in love, whom the sunshine of liberty and prosperity crumbles into dust by our contentions!”

The more possessive and competitive we are, the more divided we become. Virtually every ministry I’ve ever known that had it was not divisive. The leaders were Kingdom minded.

What do I mean by Kingdom minded?

A Kingdom-minded ministry is one whose leaders care more about what God is doing everywhere than what God is doing right here. Kingdom-minded leaders know it’s not just about their own ministry. A Kingdom-minded ministry is generous and eager to partner with others to get more done for the glory of God.

It’s hard to have it without desiring that other ministries succeed. When you have it, you know that it doesn’t belong to you. It belongs to God. He gives it. And since it is his and not yours, you’re grateful to have it and willing to share it.

Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined

Those who have it know it is not about them. It is not about their personal names. It is not about North Point, Elevation Church, Transformation Church, Gateway Church, Wesley United Methodist, First Baptist, First Presbyterian, First Christian, Calvary Chapel, Hope City, Redeemer Covenant, Fresh Life, Lord of Life Lutheran, Holy Ghost Temple of Righteous Praise, or whatever your church is called. It is not about your student ministry, your children’s ministry, your YouTube presence, your church app, your new logo or website. And it is certainly not about your name.

It is about Jesus.

There’s no other name under Heaven by which we can be saved, and so no other name really matters. It’s all about Him.

I learned this the hard way. There was one particular year in our church when we definitely didn’t have it. This happened to be the year our church didn’t grow. I think we didn’t grow because we had lost focus — I had lost focus — and it blurred, faded, and disappeared.

One weekend that year, I was driving between our two campuses to speak. Each time I made that trip, I passed several churches. By the looks of one’s empty parking lot, very few people were attending. With a combination of pride and pity, I prayed, God, help this little church. I pray you would bless them and they’d reach a ton of new people.

As I was praying, I felt like God asked me a question. Craig, would you be excited if their growth exceeded yours?

My honest answer was no.

That’s hard to admit. No, I wouldn’t have been happy if this church outgrew ours. It wasn’t that I didn’t want them reaching people. I just wanted to reach more. No matter how you slice that apple, I was territorial, insecure, and self-centered. While I had a heart for God’s Kingdom, my biggest desire was to build my kingdom, and God simply won’t bless that. He shouldn’t. I think that’s why we weren’t growing. If I were God, I wouldn’t have grown our church either.

Napoleon Bonaparte once said, “I am surrounded by priests who repeat incessantly that their Kingdom is not of this world and yet they lay their hands on everything they can get.” Do you know any pastors like that? We say our church or ministry is not about us. But for many of us, “us” is all we can talk or think about. Not only is our Kingdom not of this world but to build our kingdoms is surely one of the grossest sins. After I recognized my sinful attitude, my prayers changed. God, make me more generous. Expand my heart for others. Make me a Kingdom-minded leader.

As pastors and Christian leaders, we should be thrilled when other ministries succeed. You may think you are, but have you noticed how much easier it is to be pumped for those who are growing in another town? Yeah, God! I’m thrilled their ministry in that other state is growing! But if they’re in my town, it’s easy to feel threatened or competitive. What? The church down the street is doing well? They must be preaching a feel-good message.

That attitude is wrong.

It’s dangerous.

I’d go so far as to say that God won’t let a ministry keep it for long if they won’t give it away. Keeping it to yourself is a sure way to kill it. Ministries that don’t have much of it often work hard to guard what little of it they have. What’s funny about it is that the more you try to hoard it, the less of it you tend to have. The more you’re willing to give it away, the more of it God seems to give.

Adapted from Lead Like IT Matters: 7 Leadership Principles for a Church That Lasts by Craig Groeschel.

There is not a lot about my personal ministry or the ministries of our church over the years that I have been here that has been what I expected or planned. But God! Love those words…But God has done exceedingly abundantly above all that I could ask or even think and I am grateful to be a part of serving Him and you in His kingdom work. Let us be a blessing to ALL in the kingdom for His name’s sake. This is certainly not an earthly competition! Be heavenly minded!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith August 1, 2022

Notes of Faith August 1, 2022

Article by Marshall Segal

Staff writer, desiringGod.org

You Need Good Friends

Few realities in human life are as captivating, fulfilling, and elusive as friendship. Most of us have tasted its deep and dynamic potential for good at some point along our journeys, and yet most of us can also testify to having neglected friendship, maybe for years. Maybe for decades. As Drew Hunter observes, “Friendship is, for many of us, one of the most important but least thought about aspects of life” (Made for Friendship, 23). How much time do you spend thinking about your friendships?

Many of us give our friendships less attention than they deserve, and we suffer for it. The absence of good friends slowly starves everything else we do. A husband without good friends will be a worse husband. A mother without good friends will be a worse mother. A pastor, a doctor, a teacher, and an engineer will all be less effective at their callings without the support and camaraderie of friends. And this thread weaves quietly through Scripture. How many saints can you think of who do something worth imitating while friendless?

To be sure, Jesus stormed the grave by himself. It had to be so. And yet even he spent most of his life and ministry with a handful of guys. And as the cross drew near, he said to them, “No longer do I call you servants . . . but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15). He may have died alone, but he lived among brothers, because friendship is an essential part of being fully human.

Unnecessary and Vital Love

That being said, friendship is an unusual relationship because it’s not essential to existence. It’s why friendship is so often neglected — and, ironically, why it holds so much power and potential.

C.S. Lewis writes, “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself (for God did not need to create). It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival” (Four Loves, 90). We spend tens of hours a week on work because we would die without food and shelter. Friendship isn’t feeding the kids or paying the mortgage. But it can make parenting richer and more bearable, and make a home feel a lot more like home.

We may be able to live — to eat, drink, work, sleep, and survive — without friends, but what kind of life would that be? The truly good life, we all know by experience, is a shared life. Lewis goes on,

Our ancestors regarded Friendship as something that raised us almost above humanity. This love, free from instinct, free from all duties but those which love has freely assumed, almost wholly free from jealousy, and free without qualification from the need to be needed, is eminently spiritual. It is the sort of love one can imagine between angels. (98)

“We may be able to eat, drink, work, sleep, and survive without friends, but what kind of life would that be?”

Unnecessary and angelic — this describes the mysterious reality of friendship. It raises, or even removes, the ceiling on all our other experiences. Most of what we love to do, we love to do all the more with friends. Those who find meaningful friendship experience a nearly super-human life. Why? Because they get to see more of God, and because they get so much more done, together.

Personal Windows into God

How does Christian friendship raise us above the unremarkable rhythms of our humanity? First, by intimately introducing us to more of God’s creativity and supremacy. Those who see him together will see more of him. Lewis captures this capacity of friendship when he writes,

Friendship exhibits a glorious “nearness by resemblance” to Heaven itself where the very multitude of the blessed (which no man can number) increases the fruition which each has of God. For every soul, seeing Him in her own way, doubtless communicates that unique vision to all the rest. . . . The more we thus share the Heavenly Bread between us, the more we shall all have. (79)

The beauty and worth of God cannot be exhausted by one pair of eyes, by one finite mind and heart. Therefore, two really can see more than one. The more we share of him, the more we have of him. Surely, this is one reason why God plans to redeem people from every tribe, tongue, people, and nation, right (Revelation 7:9). Because whatever makes each of them unique prepares them to notice and treasure dimensions of Christ that millions of others might miss.

So it is in friendship. As we gaze at God together, over months and years and longer, walking through joys and sorrows, victories and losses, blessings and adversity, we get to see him through each other’s eyes. Worship is communal and contagious. Every human life has the potential to be a unique window into the divine. Because that’s who God is — Father, Son, and Spirit forever adoring and glorifying one another.

Courage in Flesh and Blood

As friendships help us see more of God, though, they also unleash us to live more radically for God. What good have any of us done in the world without the help or encouragement of friends? As you take yourself back through anything you’ve accomplished in life and ministry, and then allow yourself to look around for a minute, what do you see? For many of us, we see faces. The most defining moments of our lives have been most defined not by addresses, degrees, or promotions, but by people — often, by friends.

Hunter highlights the unusual and spiritual productivity of friendship:

One of the greatest gifts we can offer our friends is sheer encouragement. As we listen and light up to their ideas, we stir their souls into action. We lift their hearts and spur them on. Much of what is truly good in the world is the fruit of friendship. (71)

Why did Jesus send the disciples out in twos (Mark 6:7)? Perhaps he was concerned for their safety on the road (a kind of grown-up buddy-system). It seems far more likely to me that he wanted them each to have built-in, by-their-side courage to keep going when ministry got hard. He knew they would do far more good as twelve pairs than they would on twenty-four different paths. (WHAT? Sould be six pairs Mark 6:7, and then Jesus sent out the 70 in pairs as well Luke 10:1) He knew they would conquer sin and Satan together in ways they couldn’t alone.

Friendship Isn’t About Friendship

These two insights about friendship — that friends helps us see more of God and that they free us to do more for his glory — explain what makes friendship precious. And what makes it possible. Good friendships, after all, aren’t about friendship, which means we won’t experience them by focusing on them. Again, Lewis, wisely observes,

Lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly every about their Friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends, side by side, absorbed in some interest. (78)

“Good friendships aren’t about friendship, which means we won’t experience them by focusing on them.”

Lovers often find one another looking for love. Friends find one another while chasing something else. They providentially collide while striving after God, while studying his word, while loving their families, while meeting needs in the church, while discipling younger believers, while pursuing the lost. “The very condition of having Friends,” Lewis continues, “is that we should want something else besides Friends. . . . Those who have nothing can share nothing; those who are going nowhere can have no fellow-travelers” (85).

If you want to experience real friendship, go hard after God, take bigger risks to glorify him with your life, and then look around to see who’s running with you.

Friends are friends forever, if the Lord’s the Lord of them. Find an eternal friend and stick closer than a brother!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith July 31, 2022

Even If He Doesn't Faith

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied, “King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it. But even if he does not, we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.” — Daniel 3:16-18

God will give you the courage you need

Courage.

Who comes to mind when you hear that word? Maybe the soldier who volunteers for another tour in the Middle East. Or the middle-schooler who says “no” to drugs. The politician who boldly announces that the emperor has no clothes on.

Daniel’s friends Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego offer a striking example of courage. They knew the king’s command and the Lord’s command. They knew that the consequences of obeying God would be the consequences of disobeying the king. Yet the three stood before Nebuchadnezzar, confident in their God.

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego did not want to perish in the furnace, and they knew God could deliver them from the fire. But they also understood that God is God. So with “even if he doesn’t” faith, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego told Nebuchadnezzar they would not worship the gods of Babylon, or its king.

God will give you the courage you need in your “Even if He Doesn’t” Moments.

Excerpted from The Story Devotional, copyright Zondervan.

We all have these moments, maybe not a fiery furnace, but steps that prove our trust and faith in almighty God. Live out what you know to be true. Trust and obey, for there’s no other way, to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith July 30, 2022

The Practice of Praying to a God Who Listens

I love you…my people, that God has given me to influence, and who influence me.

Some have acted as a parent to me and I am preaching tomorrow from

1 Thess. 2:7-12 about the pastor leading as a mother and father.

If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you’re a parent, a grandparent, an uncle, an aunt, a caregiver in these wild and crazy times. And you need a little (or maybe a lot of) extra help.

Raising and pouring love into a child is an amazing calling. But let’s be honest: it’s also incredibly difficult.

Caring for children stretches our patience, fries our brains, and zaps us of our energy, but we wake up and do it over and over again because, well, they’re ours and we love them.

Before I became a believer in Jesus, I dealt with the stress in every possible way except prayer. I’d binge-watch TV series looking for escape, indulge in glass after glass of wine trying to numb my brain, climb to the pinnacle of my career, thinking money and the approval (envy) of others would give me fulfillment. But I found none of what I sought.

Who would have thought that a relationship with God would be the key? And there is no relationship without communication.

Prayer became my lifeline.

I thought prayer was no different from positive affirmations, thoughts we throw into the air and hope stick somewhere.

Now I know different.

And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age. —Matthew 28:20

He loves you and the little hearts in your care

When I pray, I know God is by my side. He is there, not passively listening, but hearing me, responding, and sending comfort, help, peace, solutions, and love.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. —Philippians 4:6

As a child to a parent, I pray to a loving, protective, attentive God who is always near. Sometimes I’m asking for help, other times I’m marveling at the hilarity and beauty of parenting, and other times I’m just thanking Him for the many ways He’s shown me signs of His provision and love.

Pray without ceasing. —1 Thessalonians 5:17

I have a new habit. When I wake up, before the chaos begins, I resist grabbing my phone and instead close my eyes and pray. I thank God for waking us up and keeping us safe in the night, and ask for help, protection, and direction for this day.

Before bed, we pray as a family, again thanking God for being with us during the day—and whatever else we’d like to tell Him.

But the times I pray the most… well, all day — as I’m driving, making my way through traffic, standing at the kitchen sink with rubber-gloved hands in soapy water, or making dinner. Sometimes my prayers are three-word pleas — “Help me, God” — and other times, I just talk to Him.

We don’t have to raise our children alone. In fact, we never will. God has reminded me so many times, especially when I’m afraid or worried, that before they were mine, these children were His. He loves them with a love we can’t even imagine.

I hope that in reading the very real prayers that I prayed as a parent, recorded in Help Me, God, I’m a Parent, you are inspired to approach the throne of God with your own prayers for little or big ones.

Praying for our children is a powerful act of love. Prayer changes situations. He’s listening. He loves you and the little hearts in your care.

Adapted from Help Me, God, I’m a Parent: Honest Prayers for Hectic Days and Endless Nights by Bunmi Laditan.

We always can use a little extra help, whether it is manual labor in helping with the children and grandchildren but especially those who are close to us and will call out to God on our behalf in drawing and keeping our children/grandchildren close to the heart of God. May we always remember the need for all the fruit of the Spirit not only with our family by heritage but our eternal family and the need we have to be a blessing to one another! May God bless you richly today!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith July 29, 2022

Notes of Faith July 29, 2022

Majestic Jesus, Prince of Peace

Majestic Jesus,

I come joyfully into Your Presence, my Prince of Peace. I love to hear You whispering the words You spoke to Your fearful disciples:

Peace be with you!

I rejoice that Your Peace is always with me because You are my constant Companion. When I keep my focus on You, I can experience both Your Presence and Your Peace. You are worthy of all my worship — for You are King of kings, Lord of lords, and Prince of Peace.

I need Your Peace each moment in order to accomplish Your purposes in my life. I confess that sometimes I’m tempted to take shortcuts — to reach my goals as quickly as possible. But I’m learning that if the shortcuts involve turning away from Your peaceful Presence, I must choose the longer route.

Lord, please help me to keep walking with You along the path of Peace — enjoying the journey in Your Presence.

In Your worthy Name, Amen

Isaiah 9:6; John 20:19; Psalm 25:4 NKJV; Luke 1:79

Peace be with you

Prince of Peace,

I come to You, feeling weary and burdened. I want to spend time resting in Your Presence. I need Your Peace continually, just as I need You each moment.

When things are going smoothly in my life, it’s easy to forget how dependent on You I really am. Then, when I encounter bumps in the road, I tend to become anxious and upset. Eventually, this revives my awareness of my need for You, and I return to You — seeking Your Peace. I’m thankful that You give me this glorious gift, but it’s hard for me to receive it until I calm down. How much better it would be to stay close to You at all times!

Please help me remember that You, my Prince, are Mighty God! All authority in Heaven and on earth has been given to You. Whenever I’m experiencing hard times, I can come to You and tell You my troubles. But I need to come humbly, acknowledging how great and wise You are. Rather than shaking my fist at You or insisting that You do things my way, I can pray these wonderful words of David:

I trust in You, O Lord; I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in Your hands.

In Your majestic Name, Jesus, Amen

Isaiah 9:6 AMPC; Matthew 11:28; Matthew 28:18; Psalm 31:14-15

Jesus, my Peace,

Help me to live close to You, remembering that You are my resting place. Since You — my Prince of Peace — are both with and within me, I can dwell in this peaceful haven with You.

I long to be able to stay calm in the midst of stressful situations, centering myself in You. We can deal with my problems together, You and I, so there’s no need for me to panic when things seem out of control. But I confess that the more difficult my circumstances, the more likely I am to anxiously shift into high gear — forgetting Your steadfast Presence that strengthens me.

As soon as I realize I’ve wandered from Your Presence, I need to return to You immediately. Whispering Your Name reconnects me with You and calms me down. Sometimes I get discouraged because I seem to wander away from You so frequently. However, I’m striving to form a new habit, and I know this takes time and persistent effort. Thank You for showing me that the rewards of this strenuous training are well worth all the effort. I’m finding that the more I return to You — my resting place — the more peaceful and joyful my life becomes.

In Your wonderful Name, Amen

Isaiah 9:6; Philippians 4:13 NKJV; Proverbs 18:10; Matthew 11:28 NASB

Excerpted from Jesus Listens by Sarah Young, copyright Sarah Young.

We cause so much worry and anxiety to ourselves. Give it to Jesus and wait on Him to peacefully bring you through any problem, trial, circumstance with His peace!

Pastor Dale

Notes of Faith July 28, 2022

Catch Me, Please

What if we are running from the thing we need most — namely, to be caught?

To be named and seen and noticed and corrected. It’s not regular in our culture, but the Bible talks about it a lot:

... if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. — Galatians 6:1

Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls and will give an account... — Hebrews 13:17

Let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. — Ephesians 4:25

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. — Matthew 18:15

Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.

— Proverbs 15:22

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. — Ephesians 5:21 NIV

These are only a few of the dozens and dozens of verses and passages that speak to this idea of submission, accountability, and both receiving and giving loving correction.

I’m often asked about what I think makes friendships work, about what I think “authentic community” actually is, and while there are several aspects to that vision, at the top of the list would be the practice of saying hard things and the practice of listening to and receiving those hard things.

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. — Proverbs 27:17 NIV

We have the opportunity to both sharpen and be sharpened, if only we’ll see our relationships as the anvil that they are. And yet who in their right mind wants to sign up for being the piece of metal that’s getting reshaped? Tortuous flames, the pounding against an unforgiving surface, the bending and prodding and pain. Nobody thinks they want that experience, but we do. We actually crave it. We just don’t always know how to have it.

God's way to keep us together and protect us from the enemy and sin is each other

What Keeps Us from Accountability?

There is a bigger enemy to living this way than our discomfort: pride.

Pride is the great coverup for what we all know is really true. We are all sinners, in need of grace.

Adam and Eve eat the apple. Hide from God and then devise a plan. Maybe He won’t notice we are naked and ashamed if we put on these cute stylish little leaves!

So they pull out their sewing machine, throw together little outfits, and come out of hiding with their heads held high.

“All good here!” they chime. But God knows better. Adam blames Eve. Eve blames the snake. Pride sinks them both.

Pride is our defense when we are accused. Our opinion, we are certain, is Bible truth. Our good works we set out to show we are a good person. Our achievements that mean we are justified. Our proof we wave around to show we aren’t sinful. Pride says, How dare she say that! Or How dare he criticize me!

But nothing on earth is more freeing than just owning it. Being caught. Admitting we sin. Owning our mistakes. Laying down our defenses and proving ourselves, and joyfully resting in God’s provision for our sins.

And let me tell you — people who live this way are my FAVORITES! They are self-deprecating and never defensive and fun and honest and free. And they can be you and me, if we accept that God’s got us, and He’s got the people around us.

Getting Sharp

If you’re committed to growing, you will start to see that anvil I mentioned not as punishment but as progress you desperately need. You will quit hiding and hedging. You will quit recoiling when questions are asked. You will quit pretending that you have it all together. You will let a little useful pounding into your life.

Scripture says we need this:

See to it... that none of you has a wicked heart of unbelief that turns away from the living God. But exhort one another daily, as long as it is called today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. — Hebrews 3:12–13 BSB,

His way to keep us together and protect us from the enemy and sin is EACH OTHER.

Our people fighting for us and us fighting for them.

Excerpted from Find Your People study guide.

We were made to live in community of family, neighbors, and society. Within these we are to love, worship, and hold one another accountable to God. May we recognize our place in the plan of God and live pleasing to Him in all our communities!

Pastor Dale